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[b]Erotic love, that is real love.[/b]
you got it right there. Women also prefer young and crisp to old and wrinkled 😀 Don’t know what education american women get, we Europeans may be a little different.
In most cases, for younger women, the only really interesting “mature” thing about a man is his bank account.
I agree and – and in most cases the only thing a mature man finds interesting in a young woman are her curves. And a young man finds interesting in an old woman is nothing – not even her bank account
But – nothing new there.
So what is wrong about either if that brings them together? as you infer that its not real love when erotic and need love come together.
Your “real love” thinking is archaic! Its like saying people must marry for their similarities. I guess that means blacks and whites should not marry as well!
There is one thing you are overlooking and just like large breasts they may not be a reason to marry (never hurt though) but many mature “people” are much more interesting. But gee that never occurred to you?
Men age much more gracefully then women. Its a fact… no need to be jealous. They can reproduce much longer as well. Many guys that are younger are not interested in a woman that can no longer have children. That situation does not apply to men.
European women are almost the same as American women but less uptight(you may be an exception judging your retort and initial comment (though at times much nicer – like you), but still insecure when it comes to young beautiful Latinas and their priorities…. This is where I break out into a Maurice Chivalle song in deference to young women and old men!
Wealth breeds beauty. Always has and always will. People have been marrying for social status long before marrying for intuitive chick flit love (a relatively modern thing).
Go to Newport Beach California where you see many 20 something year old with wealthy guys in their 50’s and 60’s. Alec Baldwin just married a twenty something year old. Oh but I guess that is not real love, cause of the age difference. And If I marry an African it must not be real love either because of the skin color difference. What country are you from BTW?
I think the below link explains it nicely, did more than 50 years ago and does so now as well… jajajajja Thank heavens! Check out the chick in the carriage…. jajajajajaaaa Why would she take advantage of that older man like that, doesn’t sheknow he is too old for her?????
Well, this discussion can go on and on. You see it from a very male standpoint and I from a very female.
Both, women and men, can look much younger or older than they are, depending on lifestyle and genetic.
Following your logic both men and women can behave and feel and think as if they are much older or much younger depending on life style and genetics. So if they can look, feel, think, and behave either younger or older than their chronological age why should they look for “real love” (absurd) with a person of similar age?
So, From your last statement its seems you are now contradicting yourself when you say that real love is between people of the same age.
I appreciate your civility but you give no support to your position, which to me is a very typical western female manner of operation: platitudes, that is presenting opinions as fact, or filibustering with a load of long winded empty calories that say little. A flood of words without substance.
“To find real love look for someone your own age” to me sounds like a misleading defensive statement designed to perpetrate the chick flick love stereotype, and play some lame guilt trip on men that desire younger women for mates. That is why I challenged it in the first place.
Wow, do I detect an anti-gringa attitude? I am a Griga here in Texas and have found the American men here are much to be desired. Maybe I need to date a Tico man, affairs and all, at least they are honest and up front about it.
I find the American men (all of them that I have dated) in the past 20 years to be selfish, liars, flaky, cheap, arrogant, and very unavailable. I would be delited if a man cherished me because I would give it all back, which is what true love really is. I find that when I am kind to these men they seem to run like they have seen the devil. For example if they treat me to a nice meal I show my appreciation by cooking them a gourmet home cooked meal.. they either don’t even show up, or they need to leave in the middle of it for something unimportant. The only soul mate I have found is my dog Beany, who passed away 2 years ago from old age. Believe me, that was the most painful experience I have ever gone through. That dog gave me more love than anyone or anything ever has (including my own mother which isn’t saying much). She was very loyal and devoted to me, was always very happy to see me all of the time, accompanied me almost everywhere I could take her, and appreciated everything I did for her by bringing me my slippers, bathing my feet, bringing me her toys.
People have really gotten away from what love is really about. We need to take a que from the dogs…..(except for the sexual aspect). Although there are other sexually loyal canines such as the wolf who mate for life).Did you mean the advantage of marrying non-American women?
I wholeheartedly agree.
Generally speaking I have found American women to be the least feminine acting and some of the meanest women I have ever met (not all of course). They are into being “strong like a man” and want to parade around their dominance by making men look foolish and inept, you know bring them down to their level.
They have endless opinions about things of which they know nothing about and are now being brain washed by the media to think men are useless.
A woman was named CEO of Yahoo, and she said she was not a feminist and the “penis envy” crowd jumped all over her because she began talking about interior decorating and motherhood – quite the sin for a woman to commit eh? You won’t find that in CR but the feminist extremist from the US are here spreading their poison veiled as liberation when it’s really anti motherhood, anti family and anti male.
Latin women (for the most part) respect men. They are not mouthy to men and arrogant like their American counterparts who think because a man would not physically strike them in the street for what a man would physically strike another man for saying, that they can say anything, and typically do.
For the most part, Latin women enjoy being women, and feel no need to act as men and compete with men. That is nice.
Now if you are claiming those advantages to marrying a Tica I agree.
However, Costa Ricans are much less sophisticated than let’s say south American Latinas – so the desirable ones to me are those that are architects and other professionals. However, there are some wonderfully kind and soft women that are working in factories and schools that make great wives, as long as you understand their social mores (customary behaviors).
Let me give you some examples
American men have been indoctrinated to worship their women. It’s all about pleasing them in bed, with gifts and remembering this and that, it’s a trite game of “gotcha” designed to make men effeminate and controllable.
If you start acting like that, most Ticas get bored with you quickly. They have been raised to earn your affection. If you just give it to them, there is no chase and they get confused. Seriously. I have been here quite a while and that is the truth.
American women hate this about Ticas. They feel threatened by Ticas. Have you ever seen an American woman friends with a Tica (I am not talking old women), but I have never seen an American woman that lives here hanging out with a Tica? They are intimidated by them and for good reason. Ticas know how to seduce men with femininity and kindness. Example: a Tica can go to a Ropa Americana store (used clothing) and walk out looking sexy by combining used clothes! American women walk around in baggy pants looking like they just finished a trek in the mountains. Basically they dress like men. Nothing feminine there.
With a sincere voice, you say to a Tica 20 years younger, “wow, you are so beautiful!” And she shyly says “thank you.” In the US, you would be scorned. Vilified. Made out to be a pervert for a compliment. Ticas exude their femininity by being gracious in acknowledging the compliment. That is kindness. A kind thank you for a kind compliment. American women are so full of themselves that the art of being kind to men has long been lost. They are basically mean and the word “bitch” has become a proud title to many women. They even affectionately refer to each other as that.
Another thing: Ticas and Ticos do not have a reputation for fidelity (generally speaking again). Married women have affairs here. Oh yeah. Men are legendary for having affairs and women assume this. So if you are a faithful man – you will not be treated like one. Ticas, for the most part do not think, but believe that all men in their prime cheat. Many don’t care really, as long as their husband does not leave them. This is what I meant by some of the nuts and bolts traits of a relationship. They want the man at home on Saturdays and Sundays, the paycheck coming in etc etc. So if their 38 year old husband is “conquering” an 18 to 25 year old on the side it’s to be expected. They call it street competition.
This is a very sensual and sexy society. Sex matters here. So if it takes husbands and wives (though not as much) having affairs to keep the sex fresh within the couples, then so be it. However, this is all done discreetly. American women hate this about the Tica culture; that they accept their men having affairs. American women also hate that prostitution is legal here. American women want a monopoly on sex, and prostitution breaks that monopoly, that manipulation tool they wield so unnaturally and harshly.
“Arrangements” here are common with foreigners and upper middle class Ticos. These are sometimes affectionate relationships (and sometimes purely sexual) where men and women meet for a couple of hours for pay. I have known men to have these arrangements with a set of women (usually two or three) that have lasted years. I have seen these women clean their houses and shop for them as well. Even take care of them in their old age. These women have their boyfriends but I have seen the arrangements relationships outlast the relationships they have with the Tico fathers of their children.
So the arrangement spouse is helping to support the family, as much or even more at times than the biological father of the child.
This drives American women nuts. How could these Tica do this when they could be fleecing them through divorce and live in the old codgers house with their new boyfriend! Don’t they know their street value?
American men love these relationships. Often times they are their primary relationships. Other times they may have an older Tica they date and maybe live with while they keep their playmates. There is a myriad of colors in that rainbow.
So these are an example of only some of the customary behaviors here that you will find once you penetrate the surface of society here. It takes a longtime to understand what goes on here, and if you do not live here and do not speak Spanish, you may never understand customary social behaviors here.
If you do not believe me, then cruise through the Motel Eden. The busiest time is during the day when spouses are apart from each other! These are very discrete hotels in which you drive into a garage, the door closes, you enter a luxuary room with spa and steam showers, king bed, etc, and open a dumb waiter and deposit your money. The dumb waiter comes back with towels and condoms. You never see another person. When you leave the room after an hour or so, you cannot reenter. It is then cleaned for the next client. It’s designed for mostly people having affairs. I have never counted the small townhouse style rooms but I bet there is about 100 of them. Let’s say they turn over 12 times a day on average. Do the math. So you see that sex is very important here.
There is also an interesting side to legal prostitution in that just knowing that sex is available, when you want it, makes men less needy and therefore not as easy to manipulate by their wives. It keeps the wives honest by breaking their sexual monopoly. But it also decreases men’s preoccupation for sex – as in wanting what you can’t have.
Men know they can have sex here easily so they don’t want it as much as a man dependent solely on his wife or girlfriend for sex. American women hate that variable. Ticas factor that into the equation and withholding sex from their man is a great way to get him to go get it somewhere else. Quite the boomerang effect from what American women are used to…. (this is where the smiley face goes!).
American women prefer to make their men weak and needy by withholding sex (not all of them but I would venture to say that most do). They do it to get what they want (I call it veiled prostitution). They can actually be prostitutes within their marriage – and have a monopoly on their men! Convenient no? Then their men get it somewhere else and the wife divorces him for cheating (gee I wonder why he was cheating?). What a racket.
That does not fly here. Sorry Gringas. That is why you see very few Gringas married to Ticos and if you do, you see that the Gringa understands the rules of the game and that requires using respect, sweetness and sex to keep her man happy. To me when it comes to partners, “Gringas need not apply.”
For beauty and kindness there is nothing like Latians (Colombianas and Brazilenas being at the top of the list (mate wise I would prefer a Brazilena – but if you are looking for pure beauty and passion – nothing like a Colombiana (ars gratis artis!)… However, you have to be able to understand the explosiveness because they are very passionate and extremely feminine. They like to vent. And they like to see you get passionate as well – far more than any other Latinas I have met). So if you cannot handle venting especially from the younger ones, then you might want an Asian woman. After all you gotta have fuel if you want fire….
So like my Tico buddy says, “You can’t taste the soup when it’s hot! You gotta let it cool down.” If you are mature about it and do not engage (a must), then when it cools down it is usually followed with an apology and great times… if you know what I mean. It can be great foreplay but it takes getting used to. It’s too crazy for most Gringos especially if they do not speak Spanish and do not understand the culture… Even the upper middle class Latinas that appear cultured vent, less when they are older… so be aware of that. It can be a deal breaker for some guys. I have gotten so used to it and am so apart from it that I find it amusing. Almost cute, but you have to keep a straight face… (hahahaha to them it serious (in the moment at least).
Again all of this is according to my experience and could be considered a generalization. Good luck! You are going to need it!
And watch out what you wish for!
As you might get it!
[/quote]“That dog gave me more love than anyone or anything ever has (including my own mother which isn’t saying much). She was very loyal and devoted to me, was always very happy to see me all of the time, accompanied me almost everywhere I could take her, and appreciated everything I did for her by bringing me my slippers, bathing my feet, bringing me her toys.”
Hahahaha / jajajajajaja
Thanks for making my point about gringas… I think you need to stick with dogs! Your expectation are way to high!
“The only soul mate I have found is my dog Beany, who passed away 2 years ago from old age.”
Men are not looking for chick flick soul mate crap – that was my point! you did not ever read what I wrote and if you did you read what you wanted to hear or don’t have the capacity to understand it! Maybe they did see the devil! stick with another “beany” that you can command and control at ease and at will. you will be less disappointed (jeez I hope the mail I was replying to was a hoax! if not its scarier up there then I even thought… whoa! OMG!
@ jultes : the more I read from 2bncr the more I understand that men have not developed much since they left the cave many thousands of years ago. They do not want modern women, they want a bloody young honey-bunny-dummy thing who acts like a dog, laying to their feet and be at their service 24/7. She has to look like a model, want sex 3 times a day, has to love cooking, house work and motherhood (careful, pregnancy can damage the perfect body), should not act too smart because this would scratch his ego, and hopefully she does NOT speak his language, this way she can not annoy him by talking about things she does not know what she is talking about.
@ 2bncr … sorry for not answering your text with the same amount of text. Useless anyhow, I guess my English is not advanced enough to really say what I would like to say. You had asked where I come from. I am German, have been living fulltime in Costa Rica for 20 years, speak and write decent Spanish, and I am probably THE horror version 😈 of a woman for you. I am Single and free to do whatever I want (and I just love it !!! and I give a crap what men think ). I have a fulltime job and a part time job, and a non-profit job. I am raising 2 teenagers on my own, without the help of anyone. Plus 4 dogs, 2 cats and 6 horses. My original profession is cabinet maker (state certified,Germany) which at that time was considered a man’s profession, but I liked and still like the creative part of it, which I think is pretty female. And the worst part for you probably, I am 50 years old, probably look like 50 and act like 50. I also have 50 years of live experience, which I think is great. I am not looking for a “better half”, because I am not a Half, I am a 100 % already (plus a few pounds more), so no need for another half. I have never in my live been with a man much older than myself (3 years max.)but at a time I had a boyfriend 13 years younger than me (go figure 😯 !!). I have been married and I got divorced. At the end I found out that I am a much happier person when I do NOT have a man in my neck (much less a much older one). Luckily women are not that sex-driven like men are (thought many women act like they were, because men expect it) and when considering a relationship, women also want some brain, not only the toys. Nevertheless, when a young sexy guy walks by, I can very well turn into a cave woman for a moment, and look at his butt, six pack and whatever else he has to show 😆
Hey you sound like I would like you very much – as a friend. But we were talking mates and we are talking American men looking for Tica women. Cabinet maker – way cool. Single mother – kudos – independent women! awesome. Look at men as sex objects – very manly of you.. 50 years old is a great age because people are very comfortable in their skin at that age… gee do you think that quality could be attractive. Some twenty somethings sure do here…
remember I am not judging western women per se, but judging them as potential mates, not individuals… If I had to go into battle i would want a masculine woman besides me. But if I want masculine as a partner, then it makes more sense to marry a man, no?
All kidding and such apart you sound like a very interesting person and I respect your lifestyle…
Dear elindermuller- my sentiments exactly-sounds like the male chavenist has a lot in common with myself- and he dissed me about staying with the dogs when he is looking for the same Ha Ha. I am similar with you, I don’t need a man for much- they are not worth the hassle. I am very independant also, have a great profession, ride horses and do martial arts. I am also in your age bracket- so more power to us, sister!
[quote=”elindermuller”]@ jultes : the more I read from 2bncr the more I understand that men have not developed much since they left the cave many thousands of years ago. They do not want modern women, they want a bloody young honey-bunny-dummy thing who acts like a dog, laying to their feet and be at their service 24/7. She has to look like a model, want sex 3 times a day, has to love cooking, house work and motherhood (careful, pregnancy can damage the perfect body), should not act too smart because this would scratch his ego, and hopefully she does NOT speak his language, this way she can not annoy him by talking about things she does not know what she is talking about.
@ 2bncr … sorry for not answering your text with the same amount of text. Useless anyhow, I guess my English is not advanced enough to really say what I would like to say. You had asked where I come from. I am German, have been living fulltime in Costa Rica for 20 years, speak and write decent Spanish, and I am probably THE horror version 😈 of a woman for you. I am Single and free to do whatever I want (and I just love it !!! and I give a crap what men think ). I have a fulltime job and a part time job, and a non-profit job. I am raising 2 teenagers on my own, without the help of anyone. Plus 4 dogs, 2 cats and 6 horses. My original profession is cabinet maker (state certified,Germany) which at that time was considered a man’s profession, but I liked and still like the creative part of it, which I think is pretty female. And the worst part for you probably, I am 50 years old, probably look like 50 and act like 50. I also have 50 years of live experience, which I think is great. I am not looking for a “better half”, because I am not a Half, I am a 100 % already (plus a few pounds more), so no need for another half. I have never in my live been with a man much older than myself (3 years max.)but at a time I had a boyfriend 13 years younger than me (go figure 😯 !!). I have been married and I got divorced. At the end I found out that I am a much happier person when I do NOT have a man in my neck (much less a much older one). Luckily women are not that sex-driven like men are (thought many women act like they were, because men expect it) and when considering a relationship, women also want some brain, not only the toys. Nevertheless, when a young sexy guy walks by, I can very well turn into a cave woman for a moment, and look at his butt, six pack and whatever else he has to show :lol:[/quote]
German! Well that makes sense…
This is an important issue and why men continue to come to Costa Rica, which is in search of feminine, nice women that respect men. Your posts well illustrate the meanness, and disrespect of gringas. I never criticized either of your personally, but you both have been quick to name call and pronounce men worthless and needless, all done with the emotional IQ of an American teenager.
So you make my point well.
Gringas call themselves modern women. Ok.. So they chose to modernize which basically means to act like a man in many/most ways. That is their choice. It is also the American male’s choice to reject “modern women” – and more should run from the devil – which is a contentious woman, or what I refer to as macho women, and instead chose to look outside the US for a feminine woman who has different values.
But you “guys” think that if a woman is not a “modern woman” then she is a sap. Obviously you know better… jajajaja.. of course if a woman does not have your culture she is a dog or doormat or whatever you referred to as what men want. That POV is sad. Gringas think Ticas are inferior. Why because she values traditional family and respects men. That makes you xenophobic at the very least, or worse,,,
Women like this (not you guys of course) seem sad to me. Women like that are average but as feminine, they are lacking… I think they need wives not husbands…
Maybe that is why there is such a proliferation of same sex couples. Western women have become disrespectful (as you illustrate by making this discussion personal) and masculine, therefore they appeal to other women. Masculine men don’t want masculine women so many I guess are now turning to feminine men. All this homosexuality seems to evolve from the tragedy of masculine women.
A masculine woman has no need for a man to father their children; a sperm donor will do quite well. Femanazis in general are anti traditional family, anti traditional motherhood and anti male.
Women who respond as you two, illustrate this well, as they are bitter, personally attacking, and exclude others who do not share their values/culture.. This sense of superiority and entitlement well represents the femanazi (the extreme man hating penis-envying feminist who feels that is she cannot have male genitalia than men cannot have them either).
I find Ticas respectful, feminine, and they like men… Gringas as illustrated by your posts appear to be opposite. Real men do not want what gringas offer, which is more masculinity. Real men are masculine why would they want a woman that is not feminine?
The faux men are feminine and appeal to masculine women, gringas, – for a while anyways at least until the estrogen kicks in,,,
I think the original poster is demonstrating his preference for femininity, not just in genitalia but in character and values – which is natural for a man. But the modern woman, well masculine, wants to turn what is natural on its head and act like it’s unnatural for a man not to want their overt masculinity. That is more feminist extremist Hollywood whore values. It is a shame that perverted minds in California are trying to dictate what is normal by undermining family values and traditional gender roles… not to mention religion and tradition. Now the gringas are here espousing what I see to be a perverted cultural views..
Let me have a swipe at Gringos that do not support men like me that expose what gringas are because gringos are too terrified of their masculine women. Ticos look down on gringos that kowtow to the macho gringa. Western men are contributing to this cultural disaster by not standing up for men in general and by not overtly boycotting masculine women and supporting traditional values. They seem to want perverted loose women rather than honorable feminine women. Key word “feminine.”
omg. i feel completely sick. even the Wahhabi have a better view of women than you do, 2bncr. that is perhaps the most offensive, vile, chauvinist, anti-woman rant i have ever read in my life. all the traditional roles you talk about were created by MEN! you apparently have no clue as to the power women wielded millenia ago before men decided they were too threatened. you must be one of those extreme right-wingers to have such perverted views on women. poor you.
Ah my old nemesis Maravilla, I was wondering when you would pop your viperous head from the the gringa snake pit! Jajajajjaaa. Just kidding…
“you apparently have no clue as to the power women wielded millenia ago before men decided they were too threatened.”
You must be pretty old to have a clue about that. More platitudes. That’s all you “guys” have, opinions stated as fact…
You know its all true and your are threatened by it.
The pendulum is swinging the other way my friend… macho women are out! The new cool is feminine women…
Soon men all over the US will be rising in liberation from the giringa’s insatiable need to be masculine such as Super woman kicking butts and taking names, with her whipping boy Gringo in tow.
How many whipping boy Ticos do you see? As in “none!”
I think you and your kind are in the wrong place when it comes to looking for partners.
And BTW the fact that you added your devalued and femanazied dos colones is further proof that my arguments stand…
So lets here more condemning of me rather than refuting my points as the typical gringa man hating femanazi would do.. or are you better than them?
None of you have attacked my argument. Because its true. So you attack me in perpetuation of your antiquated march of solidarity into man land. Real women are wising up to your NOW lib crap. Her in CR all traditional Ticas despise your masculinity and anti male stances… No quire here to which to preach… sorry.. (not really).
your argument is not true, except in your own mind. you take misogyny to a new height. i’ve shown a couple of my Tica friends your stance on women. after they stopped laughing, they just shook their heads and said you haven’t a real clue as to who wields the power in a Tico relationship. you only THINK it’s the man! you’re pretty funny, actually, with your blatant hatred of any women. get back to me in ten years, phil, and let’s see how you’re doing on the sex slave market. jajajajaja
As always fun butting heads with you, and I really do enjoy it! But just as when one’s position is weak they are reduced to yelling and foul language, so to you in your response. I have not made on negative generalization regarding all women. The women responding have made such generalization regarding all men. Misandry comes to mind.
Regarding misandry: The Western World has quietly become a civilization that undervalues men and overvalues women, where state and society forcibly transfers resources from men to women creating various perverse incentives for otherwise good women to conduct great evil against men and children, and where male nature is vilified but female nature is celebrated.
This is easily visible in television and movies where men are repeatedly made to be the buffoon. Another example is when the laugh track goes off every time a woman brutally attacks a man by kicking his genitals. Now have you ever seen a man kick a woman in the genitals in a sit com? Of course you haven’t.
The savage way in which men are degraded by the media is unfair to both genders, and is a recipe for a rapid civilizational decline and displacement, the costs of which will ultimately be borne by a subsequent generation of innocent women, rather than men, but their innocent children will suffer. My premise is that the maculation of women and the emasculation of men is what drive men like the original poster to look outside the US for mates. The gender confusion will further dishearten their children. Who really wants two mommies and who really wants two daddies?
The original poster is looking at the alternative for his dissatisfaction with gringas. That alternative is Latin America. Where do dissatisfied gringas look for their alternative to gringos? I see plenty of Ticas coupling up with gringos. I see few if any Ticos coupling up with gringas. I think that is a very telling point.
And isn’t the mutual dissatisfaction between gringo and gringa emblematic of the situation described in the second paragraph regarding the feminist agenda being pushed way over the line resulting in a disservice to women and men as collateral damage.
Now if you have some insight to this it is appreciated however if you want to scream the stereotypical radical feminist battle cry of “misogynist” defame his character because he wants to make an unpopular point! Kill the messenger (I am envisioning a scene out of Shrek), pitch forks), because if a “boys versus girls” kind of teenage emotional reply is the best reply you have, than I see no reason to further respond and regard such responses as complicit to my specific arguments.
Written by a prominent American female:
And it’s this feminist attitude that has made respect and admiration between men and women take a nosedive. Women’s studies programs teach women that when men act graciously, they are attempting to control them and keep them down. They encourage women to be hostile, become major ball-busters, and think they can have babies without men because kids don’t need a daddy. If you listen to them, they say just about every woman is beaten, raped, and cheated out of everything (just read Who Stole Feminism by Christina Hoff Sommers if you think I’m nuts). And when these women dress like pigs, talk like pigs, and act like pigs, it is a little demoralizing for men to put them on a pedestal, take them out on dates, and treat them like they’re special. Think about it. Chivalry has to do with respect, and we don’t see women behaving with much dignity when they hook up and have multiple sexual partners.
Although chivalry is dead, there are still nice guys out there who would act chivalrously, but they simply don’t know what the hell women want. Today’s men are very frustrated and scared because they accept women’s equality, but they are afraid that if they act romantically, they will come across as sexist and offensive. I don’t blame them. I mean it’s just the stupidest stuff that makes women angry with men.
For example, when I was just starting to date boys, my dad was very clear with me: “If a fellow opens his car door, then go out on the date with him. If he doesn’t open the car door, turn around and come back inside the house. Don’t have a conversation about it, don’t argue, and don’t demand anything. Just say thank you very much and wave goodbye.” However, if a guy tries to open a door for a woman today, she tells him, “No, I can open it myself.”
All I can say is if you’re a guy and a woman behaves obnoxiously like that on a date, just let her open the door herself. In fact leave her there. Tell her she can call a cab herself too because she’s equally competent to do that. If a woman acts in an ungracious way, dump her. Don’t waste your time, money, and effort on her. If you go out of your way to be chivalrous, kind, and thoughtful, and she doesn’t behave in a way that shows she respects, admires, and appreciates it, she’s not a woman – she’s just a female.
It makes a man feel good to be protecting and taking care of a woman, and it should make a woman feel good to know that a man is being respectful and thoughtful of her. If I walk into an elevator and a man lets me walk in first, I turn around and say, “Thank you very much.” Most of the time they look utterly surprised to get the compliment.
We’ve lost something beautiful and it’s something so essential in a love relationship. If you treat your husband like he’s a man, you’ll get more manly behavior. If you treat your wife like she’s a woman, you will get more womanly behavior. The polarity between men and women actually means something despite what social trends say. I don’t care how big of a feminist you are – we are still hardwired.
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