Gringa dating

[*Lotus]

I agree with some of the points you make…but you only want to hear yourself talk and are convinced you are right. There is no point to argue with you(you evidently have it all figured out) it will only lead around and around. Pura Vida.

[diego]

Lotus, I wish I had it all figured out, if I did, I’d have a balanced femine woman who would appreciate me and I would appreciate her. And I wouldn’t be on this board talking about this. I respect you to fessing up about some of my points. Most here have not acknowledge that what I am saying makes a lot of sense. They only rebute what hey disagree with.

I am not joking, one of the best books I have read regarding this subject is Proper care and feeding of Husbands.

Female bias is so deeply ingrained into our culture that I had to leave it. I have not dated a Gringa for over 10 years.

It would be nice to find a kind and respectful Gringa and some say they exisy in middle america, but I ilve occasionally in California -still maintain an office and studio – and they do not exist there, at laest not that I have found. When friends ask me to go to bars or restuarant to meet girls or set me up, I just laugh. They do not get it because they have no world view. Stuck inside the box.

Thanks Lotus, Pura Vida equalmente.

[curlyonecurlytwo]

Margie,

Congratulations! It takes great courage to write authentic real articles that truly address problems that anyone, in this case gringa gals, are having in Costa Rica or anywhere for that matter.

I am a guy, and when I move there this December, I hope I meet a woman, who gets it, whatever ‘it’ is.

Having no expectations and choosing not to think with my lower brain alone, I open myself up to receiving an authentic, hopefully direct woman into my life – No I am not asking for a date, I just want you to know you have earned my respect. (My girlfriends (females) and I (the guy)network and constantly fix up (blind and not so blind dates) each other, sometimes directly other times in subtle ways like lets have a mixed walking and munching snack in a lets go to a park group or lets discover another opart of Costa Rica group. I will be living in Monteverde and figure after I get my home fixed up, a dozen or so can sleep on the floor, and have a celebration for a few days, of life, laughter and getting to know each other. Who knows, maybe Scott will sponsor a mass welovecostarica.com gathering in this heaven on earth!?)

ANyway, Margie, your courage and authenticity, in what you write, say and do are commendable. Do not let others project their illusions, their pain onto you. Be authentic to yourself, and I sense success will always be yours.

In what ever you do, Margie, just keep on writing real story’s about real people and places, and trying to live each moment to the fullest. You already are whole, and your essence shines through, too bad the guys you have met so far don’t get ‘it’, whatvere ‘it’ may be.

Chao Chao

Kenny

[curlyonecurlytwo]

Double posted it in error. Same as above posting.

Edited on Sep 19, 2006 10:34

[cindyc]

Diego, seems to me that you are calling gringas “men bashers” when you are turning around and doing the same thing except it’s “women bashing”. Not sure who you are hanging out with but none of the gringas I know fit your description and I think your broad sweeping generalizations are unreasonable. IMHO. The women I know love their relationships with men for the most part; there are difficult people from each gender that you have to deal with occasionally, but that’s part of life. I believe there is someone out there for everyone; maybe that’s naive but you shouldn’t have to give up who you are to have any relationship.

And just a thought that may put you over the edge; not all women are cut out to be mothers. Me being one of them. Not because they are smelly, or leave the door open, or I can have more material things without them. I just consider it the most important job on the planet and if you’re not up for it, don’t do it. If more women really thought about this instead of just “doing what they’re supposed to do” we wouldn’t have so many screwed up kids.

[maravilla]

Cindy, it’s beyond simply gringa bashing — it’s like the guy who goes to a brothel hoping for a virgin and then complains that ALL women are putas. If he wants to meet respectable and traditional women he should go a church, or a political group, or a book club, or some other org that fosters his interests where he may just meet a like-minded person, not a bar or disco. And not all women hang out in malls — I haven’t been in a mall in 13 years. I also don’t drive a fancy car or even a new car. In fact, I don’t know any women like the ones he’s talking about either. So his sweeping generalizations are absurd, not to mention insulting. I do agree with him that American culture is pretty lowdown — I liked it a lot better three decades ago, and one of the reasons I’ve always liked Latin cultures is the respect for parents and the elderly, and the way their lives revolve around family. It’s particularly touching when I see young girls and boys escorting their very elderly grandparents around the town where I live in Costa Rica. That’s certainly something we don’t see much of in this country. And he should also read the book “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin DeBecker (actually ALL women should read this book) because it examines certain kinds of attitudes and what they mean when it comes to a woman’s safety.

[timbones]

Gee, Margie, how bad, so sad!! Sadly, the U.S. has been turned into the closest thing to FemiNazi paradise as we are going to get to.

So sad when the shoe is (finally) on the other foot, go back to Gringalandia, were mediocre women can be choosey.

Edited on Sep 19, 2006 18:44

Posted Sep 19,2006 6:49 PM TimBones
Okay don’t blame me for this post; I posted this after I polled members of our message board as to whether we should based on Roberts Rules of Order http://www.robertsrules.com/ I received a motion passed so I was forced to do it:

Advice for Margie Davis from one of our members:

Margie Davis,
Here is an answer to all your problems. There is a place called Ft. Mac Alberta. The oil sands there are comparable to Saudi and the US and China are extracting the Oil faster than the Canadians can actually develop the City. The Oil Industry in Western Canada is mostly men. They all move there because of the $$$. I am here to tell you you will not have any problem there. The men just dont care who, or what you are! They just need women. The ratio is 11-12 men per women

Edited on Sep 19, 2006 18:53

Here is a link that will tell Margie about her new home:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fort_McMurray,_Alberta#Population

Edited on Sep 19, 2006 18:58

Just trying to help yet another unsatisfied Gringa.
I just occurred to me that being a Gringa is when having it all is simply not enough!!!!!

Edited on Sep 19, 2006 19:01

[crayzrj]

hoohah! fascinating discussion and guess what! you’re all right because you’re the reality filters. yeah, it’s all about YOU! that being said i like my chances in costa rica and plan to take them. i refer you to my posting in reply to “american towns in costa rica?”. c ya’ll sometime.

[maravilla]

Hey, Crayze, I lost your e-mail addy. Want to hear about your trip and hooking up with Andrew, etc. As for american towns in CR, I just shake my head and wonder why someone would even leave home if they don’t want to experience the culture. Oh, well, to each his own.

[diego]

Tim,

Very elequoent. Could not have said it better myself.

[*Lotus]

I bet Margie must be very surprised at all the responses to her article! I enjoy her pieces as well as most of the other articles on this site, especially the ones written by people living here and what brought them etc(keep them coming Scott!)..Bottom line is she seems like a really nice woman, just looking to date! Then she gets slammed with Diego the “amateur sociologist” and Suffragette Tim; these two guys should team up for a radio show and can follow Rush Limbaugh! Lol…you know sometimes opposites really do attract, I would suggest Diego or Tim dropping Margie a line..could be the start of a beautiful relationship?

[maravilla]

Thanks for the laugh. Your comments caused me to spew coffee on my keyboard. I was going to suggest that they join the Taliban. jejeje

[diego]

Lotus, if opposites attract, maybe you should give Arnold Swartzenegger a call. Have you been clipped, or just the metro male thing works for you. No need to call national organization of “I don’t know what kind of” women. You fit in well there. I am woman hear me roar! Maybe the goddess you worship can have you buy her and you a couple tickets to a Helen Ready concert.

[diego]

Mar,

Hope that coffee didn’t burn your huevos.

[maravilla]

My abeyah got all wet though! jejejje

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