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Can someone please recommend an interior designer for me that can work with me in San Jose
I have a new apartment that I want furnished for me – a man. A heterosexual man who likes real wood furniture and wants a masculinely (??) designed and very elegant apartment.
I do not want pink anything, I don’t want seashells in the bathroom and dozens of useless candles and 45 fluffy cushions on each chair.
Contact Daniella Harley at danielle_harley@yahoo.com (also skype) she is a very good interior designer, she can translate your wishes. She lives in Alajuela and speaks English (of course).
Ah yes… homophobia rears it’s ugly head. If you can’t ask in a way that doesn’t bunch all gay people together with a negative stereotype, while beating you own chest and making it clear you’re not “one of them”, maybe you should go back to lurking.
Homophobia, xenophobia, stereotypes/prejudices all rear their ugly heads in so many human interactions and you know it boils down to fear & true lack of knowledge of the “other.” The unknown is scary to most of us, and the minority unknown is even scarier because God forbid we be confused with one of “those” people. So while thinking we’ve got “them” down pat thru a label/a stereotype we feel better. We actually lie to ourselves by believing that while stereotyping others, we know them, but you know that the only way around this is to truly get to know more of “them” as the individuals that we ALL are until we realize they are just one of “us” (human kind). Unfortunately, all humans do this, even gays–although I do believe that people that tend to be placed in the role of the “others” often are much more sensitive about not doing this to the reigning majorities, but we can all stand corrected once someone is brave enough to call us on it. Thanks for pointing this out.
I may be wrong, but I believe lurker was not looking to insult the gay community while seeking designing help, even though he probably did just that. He thought he was just clarifying that he wasn’t looking for fru fru because some people confuse design sensibilities with this. He forgot that gay men are men too and masculinity is a social construct that is not the same (nor has it been the same) in all cultures. As a matter of fact, the gentleman I would have recommended for him is a retired architect that studied in the Rhode Island School of Design and creates incredibly non-fru fru, amazing apartments and is very much a very elegant, well educated gay man, but unfortunately for lurker, he is no longer in CR…
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