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[quote=”doover612″]If I move to cr will I be able to avoid my alimony from the us[/quote]
As a multi state licensed investigator, who also operates in Central America I can tell you the answer is two fold. Yes, you can [b]temporarily [/b]avoid but eventually be held accountable. Sonny
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Doover, pay what you owe. Don’t be stupid. And don’t be a jerk.[/quote]This has to be one of the most interesting and entertaining threads I have seen in this forum.
It’s nice to see such unanimity in spanking Doover, either directly or with humor.
I have been in two been-there-done-that situations [different decades] where I paid up to unpleasant former spouses, alimony + child support. The former as bribery to get out of it; the latter since it was the ethical and morally right thing to do, even though in one case I had custody, and raised my 3-year-old myself. In the end, you must pay for your mistakes, and avoiding obligations like this will [hopefully] end badly.[quote=”doover612″]If I move to cr will I be able to avoid my alimony from the us[/quote]
What a sad statement. This is a core moral issue. Do what is right!
Why not make a full list of people you would like to discourage from moving to CR? I’ll bet any of us could make a long, inclusive list which, if enforced, would ensure a homogeneous population of goodly people having values of cultural, religious, political and racial characteristics similar to ours. Then, the next step would be to rid the country of those who are already here and do not fit the list.
I am no fan of deadbeat dads, sexual tourists, petty thieves, hunters or wealthy, chauvinistic foreigners whose aim it is to exploit for profit. But so far, I haven’t yet felt saintly enough to try to exclude them from where I live…or want to live.
Really? Are you serious?
Pay up man. The U.S. Government is serious about these types of things. Avoid women in the future who will screw you over.
Oh, by the way, if you ever do come to Costa Rica, there are plenty of women here who will be more than happy to take more than half of what you have.
Wake up man!
Aren’t we missing some details here? Are children involved? The judgement may have been legal, but was it just? I love the way people jump the gun and immediately assume a higher moral ground and assume the government is always correct. I would hold back any moral assessment because the story is not complete.
I think we have ‘jumped’ on him a bit and we certainly don’t know all the facts…
Having said that, personal facts or no facts at all, even if he was forced to marry someone with a gun at the back of his head (in case he changed his mind) he’s got the answer…
Whether it was the answer he wanted or not is another matter.
Scott
[quote=”sprite”]Aren’t we missing some details here? Are children involved? The judgement may have been legal, but was it just? I love the way people jump the gun and immediately assume a higher moral ground and assume the government is always correct. I would hold back any moral assessment because the story is not complete.[/quote]
This is strictly an alimony issue. I fully supported my son paying his college education and all the other expenses a Dad is happy to pay for. My son now is fully independent with a good paying job. I’m approaching 60 and would like to retire, but it’s impossible to do while still paying the alimony. I’d like to retire in CR for the lifestyle but cannot while still paying the alimony. My ex refuses to work. After working 6 days a week for 35 years, when is my time to relax and enjoy the good life.
I figured this question was going to ruffle feathers and I can see it has. If you have really done right by your son, I don’t see why you should have to pay away any chance at retirement. My husband, who is a lawyer here in the States says your best bet is to go back to court, even though it is expensive, because the judge just may decrease or end your support. Nobody can expect to be supported forever, especially if one is able bodied and can do something.
I’m with alewis on this one. If you have a strong case, take it back to court and be done with it. Can you prove she is able-bodied? What if you offer a settlement? What if you offer to pay for her to get a two-year associates degree or something like that? If you’ve been a good father, will your kids support you in court? If the situation is truly unjust, they may just do so. A good attorney would have some options of things that have been accepted by judges in these types of cases.
What a horrible feeling to be running from the U.S. government. That just can’t turn out good for you. I think your initial post gave the impression that you just wanted to run from the law and that’s why you got jumped.
Next time you post you might want to post a few more of the facts of the situation so you aren’t misunderstood. I haven’t posted much on this board but have read it frequently over the last year and find most people here to be reasonable people.
[quote=”maravilla”]i wouldn’t be hiding in a country where Dominican gang members will gladly break your legs for $50!!![/quote] this is Costa Rica–No la replublica Dominicana–Its the Colombianos who are dangerous. Not for such paltry sums!
the dominicans have gotten themselves quite a reputation for being thugs for hire. maybe the colombians, too, but there ARE dominican gangs in SJO.
[quote=”doover612″][quote=”sprite”]Aren’t we missing some details here? Are children involved? The judgement may have been legal, but was it just? I love the way people jump the gun and immediately assume a higher moral ground and assume the government is always correct. I would hold back any moral assessment because the story is not complete.[/quote]
This is strictly an alimony issue. I fully supported my son paying his college education and all the other expenses a Dad is happy to pay for. My son now is fully independent with a good paying job. I’m approaching 60 and would like to retire, but it’s impossible to do while still paying the alimony. I’d like to retire in CR for the lifestyle but cannot while still paying the alimony. My ex refuses to work. After working 6 days a week for 35 years, when is my time to relax and enjoy the good life.[/quote]
Sorry Doober…if you’re approaching 60, I assume your wife is about the same age…or am I off base? If she’s anything past 50 and if she stayed home to raise your son while you worked, her chances of getting meaningful sustainable employment that will allow her to enjoy the same living standard you had while together are likely pretty close to nil at this point. Each State has different divorce laws, so who knows what you’re up against, but I’d suggest that trying to run from your legal responsibilities by moving to CR isn’t the answer. Who wants to be a fugitive for the rest of their days? (You may want to ask Ratko Miladic how this feels!)
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What a horrible feeling to be running from the U.S. government. That just can’t turn out good for you. I think your initial post gave the impression that you just wanted to run from the law and that’s why you got jumped..[/quote]
To one degree or another, nearly every US citizen is either running from, resisting or bending to enslavement by the US government. Some of us, maybe most of us, do all three. If you don’t understand what is happening, if you don’t have enough information, you are in no position to pass judgement on anyone else.
Life is so UNFAIR sometimes but it is still LIFE
Married for 26 years and then retired from the Military service
and then “HELLO” my wife wants a divorce, by LAW she was allowed to keep 40% of my monthly retirement check
and during all those years she worked and had a 401K pension but I was not allowed 1 penny of her retirement
this is not fair but it is [b]LEGAL[/b]
at the divorce proceedings’ even the Judge noticed the injustice of this law and when it came to partition the GOODS (property) and everything else he was clearly slanted on my side
that was 20 years ago and she is still collecting 40% every month
besides; I paid her child support for 12 years and paid for my son’s presents during Christmas, B-day, etc.
and NONE of this was TAX deductible
now on the bright side;
I have a bachelors degree, she does not
I paid off my house, she has not
I got a Job, she is umemployed
I have an occasional COLD, she has terminal CANCER
I retire from my 2’nd job in 23 months, she is still unemployedat the end it is what you make of yourself, you either swim or drown
I live with NO regrets because my kid still calls’ me “DAD” and he is 26 now
if you think you are down in the PIT”s, look again
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