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German! Well that makes sense…
This is an important issue and why men continue to come to Costa Rica, which is in search of feminine, nice women that respect men. Your posts well illustrate the meanness, and disrespect of gringas. I never criticized either of your personally, but you both have been quick to name call and pronounce men worthless and needless, all done with the emotional IQ of an American teenager.
So you make my point well.
Gringas call themselves modern women. Ok.. So they chose to modernize which basically means to act like a man in many/most ways. That is their choice. It is also the American male’s choice to reject “modern women” – and more should run from the devil – which is a contentious woman, or what I refer to as macho women, and instead chose to look outside the US for a feminine woman who has different values.
But you “guys” think that if a woman is not a “modern woman” then she is a sap. Obviously you know better… jajajaja.. of course if a woman does not have your culture she is a dog or doormat or whatever you referred to as what men want. That POV is sad. Gringas think Ticas are inferior. Why because she values traditional family and respects men. That makes you xenophobic at the very least, or worse,,,
Women like this (not you guys of course) seem sad to me. Women like that are average but as feminine, they are lacking… I think they need wives not husbands…
Maybe that is why there is such a proliferation of same sex couples. Western women have become disrespectful (as you illustrate by making this discussion personal) and masculine, therefore they appeal to other women. Masculine men don’t want masculine women so many I guess are now turning to feminine men. All this homosexuality seems to evolve from the tragedy of masculine women.
A masculine woman has no need for a man to father their children; a sperm donor will do quite well. Femanazis in general are anti traditional family, anti traditional motherhood and anti male.
Women who respond as you two, illustrate this well, as they are bitter, personally attacking, and exclude others who do not share their values/culture.. This sense of superiority and entitlement well represents the femanazi (the extreme man hating penis-envying feminist who feels that is she cannot have male genitalia than men cannot have them either).
I find Ticas respectful, feminine, and they like men… Gringas as illustrated by your posts appear to be opposite. Real men do not want what gringas offer, which is more masculinity. Real men are masculine why would they want a woman that is not feminine?
The faux men are feminine and appeal to masculine women, gringas, – for a while anyways at least until the estrogen kicks in,,,
I think the original poster is demonstrating his preference for femininity, not just in genitalia but in character and values – which is natural for a man. But the modern woman, well masculine, wants to turn what is natural on its head and act like it’s unnatural for a man not to want their overt masculinity. That is more feminist extremist Hollywood whore values. It is a shame that perverted minds in California are trying to dictate what is normal by undermining family values and traditional gender roles… not to mention religion and tradition. Now the gringas are here espousing what I see to be a perverted cultural views..
Let me have a swipe at Gringos that do not support men like me that expose what gringas are because gringos are too terrified of their masculine women. Ticos look down on gringos that kowtow to the macho gringa. Western men are contributing to this cultural disaster by not standing up for men in general and by not overtly boycotting masculine women and supporting traditional values. They seem to want perverted loose women rather than honorable feminine women. Key word “feminine.”
Hey you sound like I would like you very much – as a friend. But we were talking mates and we are talking American men looking for Tica women. Cabinet maker – way cool. Single mother – kudos – independent women! awesome. Look at men as sex objects – very manly of you.. 50 years old is a great age because people are very comfortable in their skin at that age… gee do you think that quality could be attractive. Some twenty somethings sure do here…
remember I am not judging western women per se, but judging them as potential mates, not individuals… If I had to go into battle i would want a masculine woman besides me. But if I want masculine as a partner, then it makes more sense to marry a man, no?
All kidding and such apart you sound like a very interesting person and I respect your lifestyle…
Ok – I get it now. Won’t happen again…
October has nothing to do with eruptions… its the cloud cover… You can be a quarter mile from the volcano and not see it. Regardless if it is erupting or not, it is a majestic site to say the least and a crying shame to miss it because of clouds cover and rain.
As she said, it will not be your typical experience and I think that is what you desire your first time… not an unrepresentative adventure, although my motto for Costa Rica is : Costa Rica – Always an Adventure! jajajajaj (all possible puns intended!)>
“That dog gave me more love than anyone or anything ever has (including my own mother which isn’t saying much). She was very loyal and devoted to me, was always very happy to see me all of the time, accompanied me almost everywhere I could take her, and appreciated everything I did for her by bringing me my slippers, bathing my feet, bringing me her toys.”
Hahahaha / jajajajajaja
Thanks for making my point about gringas… I think you need to stick with dogs! Your expectation are way to high!
“The only soul mate I have found is my dog Beany, who passed away 2 years ago from old age.”
Men are not looking for chick flick soul mate crap – that was my point! you did not ever read what I wrote and if you did you read what you wanted to hear or don’t have the capacity to understand it! Maybe they did see the devil! stick with another “beany” that you can command and control at ease and at will. you will be less disappointed (jeez I hope the mail I was replying to was a hoax! if not its scarier up there then I even thought… whoa! OMG!
Following your logic both men and women can behave and feel and think as if they are much older or much younger depending on life style and genetics. So if they can look, feel, think, and behave either younger or older than their chronological age why should they look for “real love” (absurd) with a person of similar age?
So, From your last statement its seems you are now contradicting yourself when you say that real love is between people of the same age.
I appreciate your civility but you give no support to your position, which to me is a very typical western female manner of operation: platitudes, that is presenting opinions as fact, or filibustering with a load of long winded empty calories that say little. A flood of words without substance.
“To find real love look for someone your own age” to me sounds like a misleading defensive statement designed to perpetrate the chick flick love stereotype, and play some lame guilt trip on men that desire younger women for mates. That is why I challenged it in the first place.
I agree and – and in most cases the only thing a mature man finds interesting in a young woman are her curves. And a young man finds interesting in an old woman is nothing – not even her bank account
But – nothing new there.
So what is wrong about either if that brings them together? as you infer that its not real love when erotic and need love come together.
Your “real love” thinking is archaic! Its like saying people must marry for their similarities. I guess that means blacks and whites should not marry as well!
There is one thing you are overlooking and just like large breasts they may not be a reason to marry (never hurt though) but many mature “people” are much more interesting. But gee that never occurred to you?
Men age much more gracefully then women. Its a fact… no need to be jealous. They can reproduce much longer as well. Many guys that are younger are not interested in a woman that can no longer have children. That situation does not apply to men.
European women are almost the same as American women but less uptight(you may be an exception judging your retort and initial comment (though at times much nicer – like you), but still insecure when it comes to young beautiful Latinas and their priorities…. This is where I break out into a Maurice Chivalle song in deference to young women and old men!
Wealth breeds beauty. Always has and always will. People have been marrying for social status long before marrying for intuitive chick flit love (a relatively modern thing).
Go to Newport Beach California where you see many 20 something year old with wealthy guys in their 50’s and 60’s. Alec Baldwin just married a twenty something year old. Oh but I guess that is not real love, cause of the age difference. And If I marry an African it must not be real love either because of the skin color difference. What country are you from BTW?
I think the below link explains it nicely, did more than 50 years ago and does so now as well… jajajajja Thank heavens! Check out the chick in the carriage…. jajajajajaaaa Why would she take advantage of that older man like that, doesn’t sheknow he is too old for her?????
Avatars are usually representative or definitive in some (although maybe absurd at times) way – so your are not congruent with your avatar – that is the photo conflicts with the message…
I just found it amusing and thought I’d point it out. Is the skin thinning around here? Maybe its time for a round of camp fire song! What was that famous campfire tune?
Ok I am a nice guy because I just wrote a long message for you and the fricking site lost it to “log in” again, Jeeesus!
Look to sum up, Arenal and Monteverde in October is nuts. I can’t belive no one else cammented on that. Stay away. You will not see the Volcano due to clouds and Monetverde which is a cloud forest will be cold and rainy and the road is windy and may be inundated with water in places. Crazy as your time frame is limited.
After you land in San jose immediately fly to the pacific north west (Forget Cartago). That is the place to be this time of year or in Puerto Viejo on the Caribbean.
You only have 10 days so do not waste your time with buses.
Fly to the area you want to see in Guanacaste and fly back to SJ. Seriously (money well spent).
You will save two half days on the bus (one whole day – that is a tenth of your vacation).
Personally, I love Samara, Nosara (my favorite) and Carrillo. But I would never live there. Nicoya has a crappy crappy hospital, the city is ugly, and the locals at the beach thieve a lot and its very corrupt and the Ticos are not as nice as in other areas. Plus its seedy…
Check out Playa Grande. Look if you have the money and want to be at the beach the place to be is Hacienda Pinilla! By far the best!!!!! (Google it – Aveallans is the best beach and they have a JW Marrot gorgeous and a beach club). Otherwise check out the hills east of Liberia (great investment area) and then visit the beach. Liberia has an international airport great shopping and good medical.
Next fly back to SJ and explore Ciudad Colon, the Hills of Heredia and the hills behind Alajuela. Forget Cartago, its cold and a waste of time. Do the SJ leg of the trip last in case you get stuck by the rain on the coast. You do not have a lot of time and it will fly by – so don’t waste time on a bus or with tourist traps (Montverde).
Read two books at least before you come here. Erin Van Reans Living Abroad in Costa Rica and Phil Baker’s Costa Rica Now (study that one). Van Reans book is more about how other people did it. Baker’s book is more about “is Costa Rica right for you?” I prefer Bakers book because he lives here. Scott featured it on this site. I know he has saved some peoples bacon here as a consultant… Most other books are one long sales pitch… Scott has a good one on real estate.
To me the ARCR seminar was one long sales pitch. Avoid it and others that try to patronize you to sell you something, like most real estate agents posing as Realtors (ajjaajjaja – inside joke) will as well!
Man I am a nice guy for writing this twice… the first one was much more detailed
Ok Sprite – all that said while your avatar shows a photo of the beach! jajajajajajaaaa are you dreaming????
Thanks forthe compliment…
“One advice, if the relationship should be long term and stable, and real love should be involved, find a woman in your age !!”
You have to consider the source of that advice.
This is exactly what I mean when I speak of American women and their concept of love.
“real love”
“woman your age”
Well you are being optimistic (put gently) if you think men are going to find some utopian true love, soul-mate, chick-flick love in Costa Rica especially with a Tica. Is that your real love definition?
So I guess real love does not exist with anyone not your own age. “Your own age” – what the heck does that mean anyways? Emotional IQ, maturity, intellectual age, physical age? There are so many variables, but as I say Western women have opinions on everything… even though they have no knowledge about the subject, except they do not like to feel threatened by a man with a woman 15 years his junior pawing affectionately on his arm. Drives them nuts! Aw how they judge…
CS Lewis describes this set of Loves in his classic book The Four Loves: Need Love, Gift Love, Erotic Love and Friendship Love.
Gringas may think that “real love” might consist of all four loves.
Of course a gringa would never admit that real love could exist with a woman 15 year younger, 20 years younger, 30 years younger because one partner feels erotic love and the other feels need love. Need love is not real love! Yeah right. Ever walked in 90 degree heat for several hours without water? You actually love water, why cause you need it. Oh I’d love a glass of water!” need love is real love, be it a galss of water or a house to live in and a spouse that fulfills your needs.
Gringas have a utopian view of love, idealistic, even, politically correct but usually passionless (ideally no, but practically yes).
Finding someone you admire so much that you want to give them gifts to enable them to continue their efforts – is Gift Love.
Finding someone that you need to help you with things and provide for you- is Need Love.
Finding someone that infatuates you when you watch them walk – That is Erotic Love.
Sometimes people want someone their own age for friendship because they can relate to their vision of the world. That is friendship Love.
Freindship love among couples is like those types you see on the Cyalis commercials… Metro male, wife and husband wear matching garments he probably carries a man purse, etc…
If friendship is your criterion, why marry someone who is a foreigner? Their vision and experience will be very different from yours – and then there is the native tongue difference. I mean the cultural divide is huge. So marrying for the friendship love that sustains usually sexless relationships here will probably be very hard if not impossible to find.
If you are looking for a partner for a deep friendship bond based on cultural norms and discussing the amusing aspects of it, it is not going to happen unless you have lived here a long time and speak Spanish.
So if you are not here to find someone that can relate to your American jokes and stories, rag on Tico culture and how backwards everything is, as you and a gringa of your age could, then what are you here for?
That leaves need love, gift love and erotic love.
Average Ticos may couple up for Need Love. It’s a matter of making two ends meet. They may also couple up for erotic love, that is until the wife lets herself go and puts on 50 pounds… Gift love? Not so much. It’s a much more evolved form of love. Selfless.
But you are not a Tico… You are a gringo looking for a foreign mate. No? Emphasis on “foreign.”
Next is Gift love, well this takes all kinds of shapes. You could admire the way a woman cares for her child and gift here in appreciation of that. Or you could find a Tica dedicated to excellence in her endeavors and gift her according to that. Some men come down here to admire women well endowed with physical beauty and gift in appreciation of that! jajaja.. Seriously though, gift love is important because it means you are taking time to appreciate. Admiration is a healthy outlook on life and appreciation may be the highest form of human consciousness.
Erotic love? In that case, you best find someone that keeps her shape. That means start young if you are thinking about the long run.
Well. It’s complicated no?… are we any closer to understanding what real love is, except as one gringa put it, “someone your age.”
This has to do with the gringa idea that men and women should be soulmates and do everything together, you now practically share each other’s clothes, it’s a basic progressive move towards gender blur.
In Costa Rica gender difference are alive and well. So if you are looking for a woman to mow the grass, wear man clothes, and chew out the gardener and protect your home from burglars by wielding a shotgun – best look in the US.. lot of tough women up there…
However if you are looking for a woman that wants you to lead the family, wants to be part of your vision, is not interested in demonstrating how tough she is, a woman that dresses up for you rather than her girlfriends, and wants to take care of the kids, cooks and makes the home nice for her family, plus pays attention to her man by being attentive (was that a good choice of words?), then a Latina may be the way to go.
She won’t expect you to share your feelings about the daily grind of work. To the contrary that would make you less attractive. She will not accompany you to the bar on Friday night with your friends, or want to join the beer circle in the rancho with the guys on Saturday afternoon. Also, she will not want you to sit on the patio wither mother and cousins or go to the store to buy groceries or the mall to shop during the week. She will want to gab and gossip and you are unwelcome here.
She will want to go see her parents frequently and hang with her sister and cousins, go to art classes or English classes do errands and shop. She will want to go the movies with the kids, help with school functions, take the kids to events and attend every birthday family her and her family and friends have.
Ok – I am generalizing again.
So where does this fit into the four loves?
If you can appreciate all the traditional feminine roles she plays, and from the start do not try to impress her with flowers and Gifts Love all the times just because she has curves, then you will see a healthy relationship.
Need love: if she is single and wants to have a family and be accepted among her peers she needs a strong provider. This is important and you should not overlook this and take all you provide as a given, That is a gringa play. You are the man you pay for everything, that is normal, nothing special, you get no recognition for that in gringalandia! “Where is the new jewelry? I want more clothes? I think I want a breast enlargement, they Jones just bought a new car!”
That is not gonna happen here unless you want nuvo riche Tica. Good luck. Ticos are about as good at being reasonable with displaying their status as Ticas are displaying their assets (good for us men – terrible for gringas!).
So need love is a good thing, But do not rush to fill all her needs because she is your soul mate and you can tell her anything kinda barf logic.. That’s a chick flick play. Ticas don’t appreciate that here. Make her earn the fulfillment of her needs. Don’t confuse gift love and need love.
And friendship love. What one gringa calls real love! Well well.
Now friendship love is one of my favorite loves. But in my experience she or you will not look to each other for a huge amount of friendship love. She will be there in the clutch but the day to day fulfillment of friendship love will be found elsewhere – that is a good thing!
Masculine and feminine have little in common, except the bed.
There I said it. So all you politically correct man wusys that have spent you life trying to find common ground with the soul mate can cringe now.
You women that have spent your time molding your man into your gal pal or have busied yourself trying to be a drinking buddy but somehow just can’t seem to cut it when your man comments on how a certain posterior defies the laws of gravity, well go ahead and cringe as well.
Men need to hang with men. Women need to hang with women. Latinas understand this and want to hang with women and they don’t want you gawking at their friends or trying to join the group.
A typical gringa will cringe when you want to have guy time and will try to drive a wedge into you best guy friend relationships.
They want to be the source of everything! They want all you affection, admiration, and gifts plus you are to fulfill all their needs – automatically, I mean come on guys – it’s a given right! You cannot even think an erotic thought that does not concern them… no?
So, what is real love?
Depends who you are and what you want.
Two people struggling to carve out a living and need each other. That is need love. Real love. One with youth and beauty that needs another with experience and wealth, That is need love. One needs youth and beauty the other needs experience and wealth. Real love.
A couple walking out of church hand in hand on Sunday afternoon sitting in the park watching the people go by, That is friendship love, real love.
A woman meeting her man at the door with a kiss and a drink, giving her time and attention to him alone and asking if he is thirsty or hungry or wants the newspaper. That is gift love. A man bringing home flowers because he admires the way his wife does what she does.. that is gift love. Real love.
So real love comes in many forms.
Gringas don’t like younger Ticas that need/want an older man because they need what he has to offer. They don’t like erotic love and believe that according to some puritanical upbringing that men should not feel the primal urge and desire women for no other reason than their beauty. You a bad boy if you do that! Sorry gringas – Erotic love, that is real love.
Real love is what happens to you when you feel it.
Now how you handle love is another story.
Do you cave into it? That is a matter of strength. This is where most Latinos are a good source of understanding. They command. Ticas want direction. They want you to be the leader. Most gringos do not know how to be in the command position. Look at our politicians…
Remember that Ticas are not gringas. Understand her customary behavior and flow with / rather than trying to make her a gringa, because you only understand how to treat gringas.
For the most part Ticas value their relationships and that means their family. If you need to compete with that rather than flow with it… you won’t do well here in my opinion.
Find love where you find it. Life is not a chick flick… You are a man in a Latin society. If you want to do well study Latin men’s behavior. Ticas may say they want a gringo, but most only know Latinos. So that is their point of reference, and even if you are a goody-good butt kissing gringo looking for that next posterior to worship, after the novelty wears off she will treat you like a Latino. She does not know how to treat you like anything else.
So you need to know how to behave so she is not confused. Hey customary Latino behavior are great. I am a big fan! Learn it and try it! Lot of freedom there and a lot of fun. So take some charm lessons from Latinos – it will go a long ways and let things slide instead of trying to understand everything and make your Tica explain everything. Ticas don’t like that about Gringos. Don’t be so easily offended, and expect apologizes for all the little mishaps… Playing the “I’m offended card” is far from charming. Be easy to be with and it will go a long ways, and that means actually say less at times…
Buen Suerte!
Bottom line – people are too cheap to pay for thorough property investigation. Yeah they spend $200 K on PROPERTY BUT THEY WONT SPEND $500 or so to see if a a property in a foreign land is problem free. Go figure. It’s just amazing.
So I agree with Maravilla (heaven forbid) in that I don’t feel sorry for them. Stupidity is not illegal in Costa Rica or the US or anywhere else for that matter.
People! This is an under developed country with no disclosure laws!!!!!!!!!! Wake up!
People walk around here calling themselves “Realtors” and have never gone to real estate school! That’s like calling yourself a doctor and never going to medical school..:twisted:
Do you have an age range?
Do you speak Spanish?
What are the advantages of marrying a Tica anyways? I am curious about your perception about that?Did you mean the advantage of marrying non-American women?
I wholeheartedly agree.
Generally speaking I have found American women to be the least feminine acting and some of the meanest women I have ever met (not all of course). They are into being “strong like a man” and want to parade around their dominance by making men look foolish and inept, you know bring them down to their level.
They have endless opinions about things of which they know nothing about and are now being brain washed by the media to think men are useless.
A woman was named CEO of Yahoo, and she said she was not a feminist and the “penis envy” crowd jumped all over her because she began talking about interior decorating and motherhood – quite the sin for a woman to commit eh? You won’t find that in CR but the feminist extremist from the US are here spreading their poison veiled as liberation when it’s really anti motherhood, anti family and anti male.
Latin women (for the most part) respect men. They are not mouthy to men and arrogant like their American counterparts who think because a man would not physically strike them in the street for what a man would physically strike another man for saying, that they can say anything, and typically do.
For the most part, Latin women enjoy being women, and feel no need to act as men and compete with men. That is nice.
Now if you are claiming those advantages to marrying a Tica I agree.
However, Costa Ricans are much less sophisticated than let’s say south American Latinas – so the desirable ones to me are those that are architects and other professionals. However, there are some wonderfully kind and soft women that are working in factories and schools that make great wives, as long as you understand their social mores (customary behaviors).
Let me give you some examples
American men have been indoctrinated to worship their women. It’s all about pleasing them in bed, with gifts and remembering this and that, it’s a trite game of “gotcha” designed to make men effeminate and controllable.
If you start acting like that, most Ticas get bored with you quickly. They have been raised to earn your affection. If you just give it to them, there is no chase and they get confused. Seriously. I have been here quite a while and that is the truth.
American women hate this about Ticas. They feel threatened by Ticas. Have you ever seen an American woman friends with a Tica (I am not talking old women), but I have never seen an American woman that lives here hanging out with a Tica? They are intimidated by them and for good reason. Ticas know how to seduce men with femininity and kindness. Example: a Tica can go to a Ropa Americana store (used clothing) and walk out looking sexy by combining used clothes! American women walk around in baggy pants looking like they just finished a trek in the mountains. Basically they dress like men. Nothing feminine there.
With a sincere voice, you say to a Tica 20 years younger, “wow, you are so beautiful!” And she shyly says “thank you.” In the US, you would be scorned. Vilified. Made out to be a pervert for a compliment. Ticas exude their femininity by being gracious in acknowledging the compliment. That is kindness. A kind thank you for a kind compliment. American women are so full of themselves that the art of being kind to men has long been lost. They are basically mean and the word “bitch” has become a proud title to many women. They even affectionately refer to each other as that.
Another thing: Ticas and Ticos do not have a reputation for fidelity (generally speaking again). Married women have affairs here. Oh yeah. Men are legendary for having affairs and women assume this. So if you are a faithful man – you will not be treated like one. Ticas, for the most part do not think, but believe that all men in their prime cheat. Many don’t care really, as long as their husband does not leave them. This is what I meant by some of the nuts and bolts traits of a relationship. They want the man at home on Saturdays and Sundays, the paycheck coming in etc etc. So if their 38 year old husband is “conquering” an 18 to 25 year old on the side it’s to be expected. They call it street competition.
This is a very sensual and sexy society. Sex matters here. So if it takes husbands and wives (though not as much) having affairs to keep the sex fresh within the couples, then so be it. However, this is all done discreetly. American women hate this about the Tica culture; that they accept their men having affairs. American women also hate that prostitution is legal here. American women want a monopoly on sex, and prostitution breaks that monopoly, that manipulation tool they wield so unnaturally and harshly.
“Arrangements” here are common with foreigners and upper middle class Ticos. These are sometimes affectionate relationships (and sometimes purely sexual) where men and women meet for a couple of hours for pay. I have known men to have these arrangements with a set of women (usually two or three) that have lasted years. I have seen these women clean their houses and shop for them as well. Even take care of them in their old age. These women have their boyfriends but I have seen the arrangements relationships outlast the relationships they have with the Tico fathers of their children.
So the arrangement spouse is helping to support the family, as much or even more at times than the biological father of the child.
This drives American women nuts. How could these Tica do this when they could be fleecing them through divorce and live in the old codgers house with their new boyfriend! Don’t they know their street value?
American men love these relationships. Often times they are their primary relationships. Other times they may have an older Tica they date and maybe live with while they keep their playmates. There is a myriad of colors in that rainbow.
So these are an example of only some of the customary behaviors here that you will find once you penetrate the surface of society here. It takes a longtime to understand what goes on here, and if you do not live here and do not speak Spanish, you may never understand customary social behaviors here.
If you do not believe me, then cruise through the Motel Eden. The busiest time is during the day when spouses are apart from each other! These are very discrete hotels in which you drive into a garage, the door closes, you enter a luxuary room with spa and steam showers, king bed, etc, and open a dumb waiter and deposit your money. The dumb waiter comes back with towels and condoms. You never see another person. When you leave the room after an hour or so, you cannot reenter. It is then cleaned for the next client. It’s designed for mostly people having affairs. I have never counted the small townhouse style rooms but I bet there is about 100 of them. Let’s say they turn over 12 times a day on average. Do the math. So you see that sex is very important here.
There is also an interesting side to legal prostitution in that just knowing that sex is available, when you want it, makes men less needy and therefore not as easy to manipulate by their wives. It keeps the wives honest by breaking their sexual monopoly. But it also decreases men’s preoccupation for sex – as in wanting what you can’t have.
Men know they can have sex here easily so they don’t want it as much as a man dependent solely on his wife or girlfriend for sex. American women hate that variable. Ticas factor that into the equation and withholding sex from their man is a great way to get him to go get it somewhere else. Quite the boomerang effect from what American women are used to…. (this is where the smiley face goes!).
American women prefer to make their men weak and needy by withholding sex (not all of them but I would venture to say that most do). They do it to get what they want (I call it veiled prostitution). They can actually be prostitutes within their marriage – and have a monopoly on their men! Convenient no? Then their men get it somewhere else and the wife divorces him for cheating (gee I wonder why he was cheating?). What a racket.
That does not fly here. Sorry Gringas. That is why you see very few Gringas married to Ticos and if you do, you see that the Gringa understands the rules of the game and that requires using respect, sweetness and sex to keep her man happy. To me when it comes to partners, “Gringas need not apply.”
For beauty and kindness there is nothing like Latians (Colombianas and Brazilenas being at the top of the list (mate wise I would prefer a Brazilena – but if you are looking for pure beauty and passion – nothing like a Colombiana (ars gratis artis!)… However, you have to be able to understand the explosiveness because they are very passionate and extremely feminine. They like to vent. And they like to see you get passionate as well – far more than any other Latinas I have met). So if you cannot handle venting especially from the younger ones, then you might want an Asian woman. After all you gotta have fuel if you want fire….
So like my Tico buddy says, “You can’t taste the soup when it’s hot! You gotta let it cool down.” If you are mature about it and do not engage (a must), then when it cools down it is usually followed with an apology and great times… if you know what I mean. It can be great foreplay but it takes getting used to. It’s too crazy for most Gringos especially if they do not speak Spanish and do not understand the culture… Even the upper middle class Latinas that appear cultured vent, less when they are older… so be aware of that. It can be a deal breaker for some guys. I have gotten so used to it and am so apart from it that I find it amusing. Almost cute, but you have to keep a straight face… (hahahaha to them it serious (in the moment at least).
Again all of this is according to my experience and could be considered a generalization. Good luck! You are going to need it!
And watch out what you wish for!
As you might get it!
Are you a wife hunter or a life hunter? I would advise being a life hunter, that is going on with your life and letting it take you into situation where you would normally be anyways. Why? Because that is where you will find women with which you have things in common.
Hey if you are into Yoga keep building that part of your life… you may find a fellow yoga enthusiast, If you are into women’s clothing go to a women’s clothing store (hey, did that come out right?). If you are into surfing… well the beach. Health food? The organic feria… etc etc…
If you go wife hunting, you will start rationalizing like the mall thing…. Then if you don’t find anybody that day of hunting you have basically wasted your time. So use your time to do what you like to do and see what comes along. If nothing comes along then you still did what you normally would have done and advanced your agenda 9whatever that may be).
The Spanish thing is super important, especially if there is a significant age gap. In my observation women here seem less into the soul mate thing and are more into solid nut and bolt relationships (more for function and less for idyllic intuitive love). Compared to the states, and of course generally speaking, they will want to spend much more time with their families. This is good because you are not looked at as the only source of companionship. The culture gap is huge here. Costa Rica has a peculiar set of customary behaviors and you should first understand them before marrying someone here.
Remember you are marrying the culture as much as or more than marrying the person. Also as much as anywhere and even more so, you are marrying the family as well. So get to know the culture and family.
