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[quote=”alewis”]My daughter is planning to get married in CR this summer. Her fiance is CR and she is American. We checked our a couple of hotels but would really like to hear from some people who have either done this or know someone who has. We want it to be beautiful with no screw-ups. Our budget is between 25,000 and 50,000 dollars. . . . (remainder deleted to save space)

I think you raise a very important question. I am an American, and not in Costa Rica, but I have an idea that might be helpful.

Maybe it would be helpful if your daughter visited and/or talked to her future in-laws, or future mother-in-law, about what type of wedding they and their friends would enjoy.

I got married the day I graduated from college, in a town far from my parents’ community, as your daughter is doing. Because my father had already been retired, I was careful with expenses–dress made by local seamstress, punch and cookies reception, small local church, music provided by family, father-in-law officiating. My mother-in-law was involved in helping with this.

Years later, after my mother died, I found in her papers a note my mother-in-law wrote during our engagement, praising me and saying how good she felt about me as a future wife for her son because of the modest arrangements I made and because the likelihood that I would not be all about material things. When we divorced after 12 years, my in-laws wrote to me saying that they loved me and I was still family, and still regularly invited me to visit and stay in their home. I could not have had a better wedding.

Pura vida!

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